Max Mosley - Did He Really Win?

The much publicized privacy court case involving Max Mosley has concluded. While the court decided in favor of Mosley and awarded him 60,000 pounds in damages, one has to wonder if he really won anything. Okay, so the case decided he had a right to expect privacy but once the video hit YouTube and his sexual interests became the stuff newspapers love to use as headlines, privacy can't be made retro-active. How once can really repay someone for the damage done to their reputation, their marriage and standing in the community? Those things can't be bought back from the public.

Nothing Better to Do or Election Fodder?

Another one bites the dust! Read about the latest bust of Domes in NYC - what's this world coming to? Retirement is looking more more like a good option.

Casting Stones

This will be an interesting week in the news - New York's Governor is in hot water. So far, there are a lot of sound bites with very few details, but the bigger the man the more people will flock to see him fall.

I think that all men are human and thus not perfect. What a shame that all the good he's done will be forgotten and he'll be remembered for being a man. What bothers me is that this follows a tsunami of inquires from the National Enquirer about the NY BDSM scene and the March 6 issue of Time Out New York's "Secret Lives of New Yorkers: A go-go dancing lawyer, an orgy-loving dad and a pot smoking doctor. What's wrong with you people?" When did Time Out become so judgmental?

Which brings to mind John 8:7: "So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her."

BDSM Debate: Tax Dollars Hard at Work in Massachusetts

If you thought Politics only deals with boring bills, then you haven't been keeping up with Massachusetts House Bill 1722, the Transgender Rights Bill. While the bill itself may not make good reading, the debate it has sparked spans the gamut of emotions- from conservative thoughtfulness, to the wildly absurd.

I am in no way voicing My opinion on this bill and the very real issues it's attempting to address. I am concerned about what it might mean with respect to standards of public behavior. My personal standard of behavior has always been in keeping with the mantra: Safe, Sane and Consensual. In My professional life I am often asked about public outings with clients. I don't feel anyone has the right to force their fetish on the general public.

So while some Dommes may spank a sub in public, or allow foot worship in a public park, I won't risk having a child or other adult view these scenes - they obviously didn't consent to such a show. I, of course, don't mind pushing the envelope under the right circumstances and find that public teasing can often be quite erotic, but I pick My spots very carefully. Teasing behaviors are best left to very discrete actions in public which only make private encounters more enjoyable.

Happy Valentine's Day

It just goes to show that even professors can be stupid, but this one was just plain lucky; he's alive to celebrate another Valentine's day.

Spending Valentines day in NY with the person you have been married to for "more than 30 years" might sound like the picture of romance, My guess, this man's wife has mixed feelings about the circumstances that brought her to NY this year. Read and decide for yourself.

Bondage Accident - Deeply Disturbing

If you have read anything I have written, you know that I am very particular about which clients I will see and what kinds of sessions I will do. The decision is squarely mine and not open to discussion.

My RULE NUMBER ONE is that play must be Safe, Sane and Consensual. I have turned down many clients who I feel take unacceptable risks, or that simply don't/won't fully exercise their share of the responsibility to ensure compliance to that rule.

However, like any rule that is simply stated, individuals are left to apply their own personal judgment as to the meaning of "safe, sane and consensual" and therefor apply their own level of "acceptable risk".

I hate to see headlines like this in My local paper, especially when it involves supposed "professionals". But even more, I'd hate to see this incident become the weapon that some lawmaker wields to make domination (currently a legal activity) an illegal form of entertainment - using public safety as a cover-up for morality.

So play, but play safe, and above all, no matter who you play with, ask questions that will not only result in a satisfying play session, but a safe one, so you will live to play another day.

Thankfully, no one died in this incident, but that was only pure luck in timing.

Where is My spring weather?

Okay, where is spring and My warm weather. Mother Nature is not cooperating and may even to be conspiring against me in order to force my toes back into hiding. So, in a defiant mood today, I treated myself to a "Master" pedicure and had them paint my toes red! If you're a fan, have read my blog or viewed my website you probably know that I am totally loyal to french manicures and matching pedicures. That's right, despite desperate pleas from my foot fans, I never do red. Well, never say never.

While science may disagree, I believe the spring "toe" obsession is virtually hard coded on the female DNA. Along with a new Easter bonnet, every young girl looked forward to a new pair of shoes to complete that special Easter ensemble. You can bet the farm, with absolute certainty, that from the time I was old enough to have ANY input in the matter, I opted for any style shoe that set my toes free.

The shoe pictured here, is the one I'll be sporting this Sunday. These BCBGirls "Lacey" Slingbacks were a gift - a gift that causes the warm fuzzys every time I see them. The clean line of a the sling back is sexy and sophisticated; a timeless classic. These beauties were the inspiration for my red polish rebellion.

So Sunday, no matter how cold, I'll be in my Easter Bonnet and my red toes will be on display!!

Blog Notes

Just a quick point of clarification on the general usage of the comment section of a blog. The comment section of a blog is a place to publicly voice your opinions. I value that input and post the ones that are appropriate for public reading.

Lately I have been getting notes that are better directed to Me via email. I moderate all comments, thus the general public won't see comments until I approve the content. Comments are generally anonymous , and leave Me no way to contact you privately, leaving your comment unanswered. I will not carry on dialogues in a public forum that are best handled via email. I enjoy reading your comments and hope to continue to receive them via the comment area or by email.

Please note, all session and possible session questions and or requests are not appropriate material for the comment area. My email address is MistressWylona@gmail.com

Happy Valentine's Day

So you may wonder, How Does a ProDomme Spend Valentine' Day?

Ah, it might be nice to be selfish and attend an exquisite fetish event but as a loving, giving, nurturing Domme, I'll spend it with a few special clients and for me that will be equally rewarding! Beyond the obvious delicious play time in which I participate, giving has brought me other rewards. I've often said that a mother is judged by the nature of her children and a Domme, by the quality of her clients. I'm blessed on both accounts, especially since mommy role play is a big request.

So far Valentine's day has brought me many cards, e-cards, original poetic verses, and gifts that range from thoughtful to extravagant. The most exquisite gift is one that I can share with all of you - a gift that will keep on giving. A very special "son" surprised me with a stunning Share Aaron custom corset from Purple Passion. The folks there know my sizes and tastes and were happy to help him indulge me. When I have my next set of pictures done, I know you'll enjoy the look of this stunning piece.

My wish to all of you reading my blog is to experience in your lives the kind of joy I get from sharing time and energy with the special people that enter my world. BDSM, at it's simplest, is often described as an energy exchange. To exchange anything you must be willing to give AND receive. The activity one chooses (spanking, bondage, etc) is just a transport mechanism to a place, sometimes referred to as "head space". While understanding the mental state one wishes to achieve through play is critical, a good top knows it's how one reaches beyond your head into your heart and soul that makes play time truly memorable. So from my heart, I hope you'll remember to live, love, lust and dwell in joy on this very special of Holidays and through out the rest of your days!

Seeking the Connection

I'd been feeling a bit of the winter blues, but the article that showed up in my in-box and a very touching email have really put a big smile back on my face and a song back in my heart.

Most people don't understand what it's like to be a ProDomme. If you're good, and I am, you open up emotionally for your clients - expose that which most people keep bottled up in hopes it will protect them from emotional pain. In truth, that just cuts off the ability to connect, to feel, to truly live. As a Domme empathy for your bottom can leave you drained if you're not careful. It's a balancing game, and in any game there are winners and losers. I feel quite blessed, I have won far more than most. When you complete the connection, the energy exchange, the very essence of BDSM, leaves you energized.

The article attached talks about the rare client that wants an extreme session but mentions that about 1/2 of Her sessions are "light". Do Not confuse light with superficial. I'd say that for Me, about 3/4 would fall in that light category - if we only measure levels of discipline. However, the level of raw emotion in many of those sessions are so intense, that I would hardly call them light. Recently, in one session, the magic was so intense, that both Top and bottom melded to a perfect union; the melody and rhythm of that session turned the mild into something wild. It's a session that I will not soon forget. The note that arrived in my in box shortly afterwards, is the very reason I session; the reason I put it all on the line every time I agree to do a session.

So I'd like to thank a very special music teacher from Long Island. Thanks for reminding me why I am a ProDomme.

Orlando in the News Again

No not Orlando, Florida, but Janet Orlando. Remember her? She has had more than her 15 minutes! She gets spanked at work, sues and wins 1.7 M (she gets $800,000 of that) She then does the whirlwind talk show tour. Then, after an appeal, she agrees to settle the case for 1.4 Million. And then, before you can turn around, she's in the news again as she's caught shop lifting - for the THIRD time in the past three years. She pleads no contest to the charges, as she had done before. Now she's suing her former company once again because she hasn't seen the settlement money. She wants her 1.4 million plus interest PLUS another 4.2 million in punitive damages.

Maybe it's me, but.... she got spanked because she had poor performance as a salesperson and now is getting rewarded for a job poorly done! She has a history of theft and prescription drug abuse and yet this is the person that Fresno City College invites to be a guest lecturer. Is this really the person we want addressing our country's future leaders?

A Time and Place for Everything.....Especially a "Lingerie Fetish"

Now I like a cross-dressing boy as much as (okay, maybe perhaps more than) the next gal, but just like mom always said, "there's a time and place for everything". Needless to say, the workplace is NOT the place, unless of course you work in a Dungeon. Now, I can't prove it, but I'm sure there are a few employees that might say that working at Verizon (check out the article) is like working a Dungeon, but that doesn't make it right place to "air" your clean or dirty lingerie. Always remember the first rule of BDSM---Safe, Sane and Consensual.

This subject brings to light a real pet pieve of mine -- what makes people think we have the right to subject the general public to our kink? Playing in public isn't always a bad thing but it can be if there is anyone that can tell you're playing and they didn't agree to be a witness or to be involved in anyway. We DO have the right to endulge ourselves if we follow the rules above - safe, sane and consensual. If we follow those rules perhaps the "general public" wouldn't feel the need to regulate our fun!

So if there are any cissy boys, lingerie fetishists, or cross dressing boys that need an outlet, call your local Domme--we're here to help!!

Sexy the New Scary?

Just when did adults hijack Halloween? Halloween used to mean Charlie Brown's Great Pumpkin special and lots of candy for the "little kids".

More than one newspaper has run stories about the growing Halloween market. Estimates are that this year nearly 5 million dollars will be spent on candy, decorations and costumes. The number of parties held rivals the numbers for New Years Eve and the Super Bowl. But when did Halloween become super sexed?

From the link above:

Of course, risqué outfits have always been a part of the holiday for some women. But there are two differences now. The tart look has gone mainstream -- and the girls who are wearing it are much younger.

"We're seeing 12-year-olds buying them," says Sumanasa Jyoti, who manages a Halloween Headquarters store in Santa Cruz that is open year-round. "I'm amazed that they buy them, but they do. A lady came in the other day and bought a sexy ladybug costume for her 7- and 8-year-olds."

Don't get me wrong - I LOVE sexy clothes and think it's great that fetish clothes are more and more main stream, BUT when costume companies are making French Maid costumes for toddlers, even I start to think sexy is being pushed out to the public a little too hard.

Call me a prude if you like but I prefer my sex and sexy activities to be between consenting adults.